tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.comments2013-02-05T18:24:57.357-08:00Reality UneditedThe Spatularettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13903320423158537233noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-30754428787107448112013-02-05T18:24:57.357-08:002013-02-05T18:24:57.357-08:00Dana,
I just found this blog while looking at pict...Dana,<br />I just found this blog while looking at pictures Sean is showing me of Jack. I won't say I know how you feel, but I will say that I share what you feel. When Jack was born, the second thing I thought of was Shane. He is always in my heart and the grief will never leave. When we first heard I was pregnant I was filled with love and fear. I knew this was what I wanted, but I also knew I was opening myself up to the possibility of intense pain. That is the risk we take when we decide to fall in love or have children. What if I lost my husband?what if my child was hurt or if I lost him? How could I go on? I have not suffered the intense loss that you have, but I hope you will feel, more and more, that there is the possibility of love.<br />Love, MaggieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-4041673603982669942013-02-02T13:04:36.600-08:002013-02-02T13:04:36.600-08:00Beautiful, Dana! You are everything Shane needs. ...Beautiful, Dana! You are everything Shane needs. You are a wonderful mother and now a fabulous Aunt. Thinking of you always.RachelAAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08810299591186388455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-35270472097410137622012-08-13T21:25:09.192-07:002012-08-13T21:25:09.192-07:00Erin- I am so sorry for your loss. I hate that we...Erin- I am so sorry for your loss. I hate that we can relate on this level, but I am grateful for your words. I wish for bright days in your future as well. xoxDananoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-23021127000881259082012-08-13T19:55:36.626-07:002012-08-13T19:55:36.626-07:00I can relate so closely to what you have experienc...I can relate so closely to what you have experienced. It seems like somehow we just hit rock bottom with sadness, like we really can't get any sadder. And we just keep going every day. You are a strong and loving mother. I hope your journey becomes easier. Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09283913162296498312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-84565735181450066642011-11-19T16:22:07.801-08:002011-11-19T16:22:07.801-08:00I hope Shane can save so many other babies and fam...I hope Shane can save so many other babies and families from going through such tragedy.mom2natnkatncjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05749438583515797641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-82144190417879125652011-11-16T19:38:59.410-08:002011-11-16T19:38:59.410-08:00Amazing! Thank you Elisa!Amazing! Thank you Elisa!The Spatularettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13903320423158537233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-48336057081137014942011-11-15T16:26:39.382-08:002011-11-15T16:26:39.382-08:00You are amazing and inspiring. It's wonderful...You are amazing and inspiring. It's wonderful to see someone who sees the positive. Shane would be proud. <br /><br />On 11/18 my little one would have been nine. As a tribute to him and other babies who have passed away, I'm hosting a blogfest for mothers who have lost infants or children. I would love it if you could join us and share your story.<br />-Elisa<br /><br />Here's that link if you're interested:<br />http://ecwrites.blogspot.com/2011/11/golden-sky-blogfest-is-in-less-than.htmlCrazy Life of a Writing Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16064939499412649850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-50708092914069748552011-10-17T10:37:38.102-07:002011-10-17T10:37:38.102-07:00Dana it was so nice to see you and Mike on Saturda...Dana it was so nice to see you and Mike on Saturday!! I'm so glad you were able to come this year and that we were able to remember your beautifull little boy!!!Aaron Cirilohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07272046171205044570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-45892053363183428852011-10-16T15:27:33.558-07:002011-10-16T15:27:33.558-07:00Sending you hugs and prayers....and prayers for yo...Sending you hugs and prayers....and prayers for your friend, too.Nika M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15716308480356654189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-77392000680112293382011-08-14T11:11:01.162-07:002011-08-14T11:11:01.162-07:00Dana, Reading this post is just unbelievable. I k...Dana, Reading this post is just unbelievable. I knew you and Angie were friends, but only recently did I realize that you knew each other BEFORE. I have read your blog and been so impressed by your efforts in memory of your son Shane. Thank you for writing this post in Aiden's honor. I, too, lost my daughter to a undiagnosed, severe congenital heart defect. She was born still at 31 weeks. My Angeline is at the birthday party in the clouds.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09283913162296498312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-878523292001669532011-08-14T07:51:56.030-07:002011-08-14T07:51:56.030-07:00Thank you Dana!! You've been such a wonderful ...Thank you Dana!! You've been such a wonderful friend throughout this past year. Although, I wish they were here with us, I am so happy when i think of our boys playing and laughing as they wait for us to Come Home♥ xoAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09787279517741148607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-2220197277480388362011-08-10T16:02:05.823-07:002011-08-10T16:02:05.823-07:00"he stopped me and he said: "You always ..."he stopped me and he said: "You always seem so strong, but I want you to know that if you don't feel like being strong and you just want to be sad, you can call me, and I will be sad with you. We don't always have to talk about my son if you don't want to, I won't be offended and if you just feel like crying, I will cry with you." I don't think I ever told him, but hearing him say those words allowed me realize that my friends didn't want me to just "get over it". He helped me realize that those who truly loved us, weren't going to pretend like it didn't happen in order to help us heal. They wanted to be there for us, to hold our hands while they helped us navigate through this difficult time together."<br /><br />Oh how I wish many more people could just get this! Its so lonely to live through this grief. I know many around me (friends and family) have not walked this road so the don't get it and I hope they never do "get it" the way I do ... but it would be nice if someone could understand like your friend didOur familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05564588167334825799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-16372257821995466192011-08-10T15:57:06.824-07:002011-08-10T15:57:06.824-07:00So glad you are sharing your story ... your real s...So glad you are sharing your story ... your real story. I can certainly understnad much of what you wrote. I am so sorry for your loss and so encouraged what you are doing in your son's honor and memory.<br /><br />Love and Blessings to you ~<br />Heather Dawn <br />http://asijourneythroughloss.blogspot.com/Our familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05564588167334825799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-29500904182204990292011-08-09T18:30:41.111-07:002011-08-09T18:30:41.111-07:00You're welcome!!! It turned out great! love yo...You're welcome!!! It turned out great! love you xoxoxAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09787279517741148607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-79366204575862909792011-08-09T15:06:23.745-07:002011-08-09T15:06:23.745-07:00Love the new look! And don't feel bad, I LOVE ...Love the new look! And don't feel bad, I LOVE reality TV as much as you do :)CaseyKuzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14429660766459425558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-26050476245950336542011-08-09T08:10:44.789-07:002011-08-09T08:10:44.789-07:00The new design looks beautiful, Dana! xoThe new design looks beautiful, Dana! xoAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09787279517741148607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-46668430198629023602011-08-04T16:16:32.394-07:002011-08-04T16:16:32.394-07:00♥ Thank you everyone!♥ Thank you everyone!The Spatularettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13903320423158537233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-50816312181773313872011-08-03T12:37:40.969-07:002011-08-03T12:37:40.969-07:00Awee D... I will always keep reading your blogs, e...Awee D... I will always keep reading your blogs, even if they make me sad it comes from a good place. I think in general friends often try to feel what their friends are feeling - it may be in different ways or forms, but it continues the bond between friends when you share your feelings and thoughts and I hope you always, always continue to do so. We all want to know what you're feeling and want to be here for you. I know this has been so hard to go through, but I hope you never ever stop writing about it and I know you and all of us will continue to celebrate Shane's life forever. :) And just for the record, if anyone ever tells you to get over this, I will punch them in the face.Caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12402853468016926630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-14537097908117185732011-08-03T11:33:46.457-07:002011-08-03T11:33:46.457-07:00Auntie Casey will never forget about her very firs...Auntie Casey will never forget about her very first nephew, Shane!!! I love the poems you wer able to discover and enjoy from the ceremony, they are beautiful!Caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12402853468016926630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-58012726611440547232011-08-03T11:23:19.384-07:002011-08-03T11:23:19.384-07:00Through all the good times and bad times I hope yo...Through all the good times and bad times I hope you know I'll always be here for you Dana! You are the sister I never had. This blog is so sweet and heartfelt, and means so much to me and I hope you know how wonderful and awesome you are - THANK YOU for your friendship Dana! The only thing I would change about our past friendship is that I wish I lived closer to you so that I could have been there for you more this past year. It's so hard living so far away from your best friend! I hope you know how much you're thought about and prayed for from a distance D. Love you and miss you! And you are darn right our own reality/friends show would be VERY entertaining. :)Caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12402853468016926630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-75697748673969606902011-08-03T11:10:51.600-07:002011-08-03T11:10:51.600-07:00D - I am so glad that you are writing out your tho...D - I am so glad that you are writing out your thoughts and feelings, what a beautiful blog! There is never a day that goes by where I don't think about you and Shane and feel heart ache...I love you and am so happy to hear that you are ready to press play again! I hope you know how inspiring you are Dana, and not just to me but all of your friends and family and other mom's who have gone through the horrible experience of loosing a child. You are truly an amazing person and I'm so proud of you!Caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12402853468016926630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-78517001551062323102011-08-01T17:00:58.292-07:002011-08-01T17:00:58.292-07:00p.s. I hope you never get over it. He should alway...p.s. I hope you never get over it. He should always be remembered and loved, and anyone to tell you otherwise is just plain wrong. You should be allowed to greive and celebrate his life forever.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06422603807183544866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-77057875626610275282011-08-01T16:59:24.859-07:002011-08-01T16:59:24.859-07:00Hi Dana! I met you a few years ago at my place in ...Hi Dana! I met you a few years ago at my place in T.O. and I think once in San Francisco too? Mike gave me the link to your blog after I read about your son (beautiful boy!) and I told him about my loss a few months ago. I know my loss isn't anywhere comparable to losing your son, but I am very much affected my loss in any form. I was a bit hysterical reading Shane's story. You are very much a mom and Mike is very much a dad. I blog a lot too, and have an almost two year-old son. I also shared the entire story of my loss on my blog. If you ever want to talk, email me! We've been trying to conceive since our loss with no luck so far, but we're hopeful. Hope all is well. Xo.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06422603807183544866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-11836189049089739592011-07-30T13:28:42.729-07:002011-07-30T13:28:42.729-07:00NEVER, never should you be expected to "just ...NEVER, never should you be expected to "just get over it". You ARE a mother and an amazing one at that. Writing truly is the best medicine. Keep it coming! Love you!<br />Rachel AndersonRachelAAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08810299591186388455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528944307762600284.post-5827317950296785932011-07-28T09:34:02.909-07:002011-07-28T09:34:02.909-07:00I love reading your blog because you put in to wor...I love reading your blog because you put in to words what you don't often speak. I am so proud of you and Mike and your bravery. Shane's legacy will live on because of you and so much good will touch the lives of so many because of him. I cannot imagine the emotions you feel because I have not walked in your shoes, but I feel your pain. As a mom, I want to make everything better for you. Instinctively a mother always wants to make everything better for your child and that I feel, so much it hurts. Life is a miracle. This blog is wonderful because it helps everyone in your life, including me. I love you!Teri Kuwaharahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12488710081944540545noreply@blogger.com